It all started with the bank calling us and denying us for a loan. We have to be out of our house in 25 days and I guess we will be homeless. So we are trying to get a loan somewhere else, but most likely we are going to have to move in to an apartment for a couple of months, before we can buy. This means we get to move twice, Ugh. I HATE renting!!!!
Next, we were off to my BIL & SIL's land so DH could help him w/builidng their house. Well, I really didn't want to go b/c I am still not over being ticked off about her last stupid, moronic, and absurd comment. (Yes, this is the same KU SIL I vented about on we.bm.d) Well, we get out there and she is gone doing who know's what. Then later after she gets back, I figure out that she is still smoking. Yep, you read it right! Smoking at 6 mos. pg?!?!? But she is trying to hide it from me, she sat in the truck to smoke and then comes & sits down next to me and starts talking. Um, hello, I have nostrils and I can smell it. The fact that she won't smoke in front of me just means that she knows she shouldn't be doing that and that I will get mad at her. GRRRR!!
Then, we are on our way home and I'm upset about not getting the loan, mad at my SIL for taking her pregnancy for granted, and being irresponsible. And the phone rings, its my dad and yes I may have sounded a bit irritated but it wasn't w/him I was having a bad day and he called at the wrong time. Well, he starts chewing me out saying that I have been rude to him & my mom, and they think I don't want to talk to them or be bothered by them, and that I need to listen to how I sound when I talk to people because my voice is shrill.
I get off the phone and I don't know if I should scream, cry, or start punching someone. Maybe a combination of all 3 would have worked. I just sat there. I told DH I know I've changed, but I don't know how someone can go through 4 1/2 years of infertility and my brother dying in a motorcycle accident and not change. In the last 5 years its been heartache after heartache, how do you go through 2 awful things at the same time and not change?
I think it all started to hit me today and I thought I was having an anxiety attack. My chest started hurting and it was a little harder to breathe. I had to make myself stop thinking and then I turned up the radio and tried to focus only on the song.
I hope tomorrow's a better day! I could so use a positive day.
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ReplyDeleteI want to slap your SIL so hard & I don't even know her! GRRRR!
I'm sorry, it's not fair. And I'm sorry that you have to deal with so much at once.
Did the bank give you a reason for not approving the loan? I hope it's something you can get fixed!
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Geez sounds like you had a rough day
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My BF smoked through both of her PG's, yes it was very hard for me not to punch her.
Maybe being in an apt will allow you to save up some money. Do you not have enough to put down? Since the gov't just put a trillion dollars in the pipeline for banks to loan out, it seems like they should be more willing to lend. Try another company and see what happens.
Your SIL makes me soooo mad! I just deleted alot of stuff and I am going to leave it at that.
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Can you try a different bank? We do NOT bank at Bank of Am.eric.a, but that is where we got our house loan through. Good luck on that one.
That is a lot to handle in one day. I hope you have a better, more positive day. We are here for you.
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Your SIL is awful!!! You are so right to be as mad as you were. I hope things get better for you and you can work things out with the loan and your parents. I would avoid your SIL at all costs. She isn't helping anything. Hope today is a better day.
ReplyDelete(((((HUGS))))) I am so sorry that you are going through some tough times. I really hope things get better for you.
ReplyDeleteAnd just think that if you have to move into an apartment for a little while - well that just means you have a little more time to find and buy the home of your dreams! : )
Ohhhh I used to smoke. And I quit a year before I even started trying to concieve. I would never think to even have one ciggarette while I was pregnant. Its bad enough to harm yourself, but dont do it to that poor helpless little baby that you have growing inside of you!! I am sorry that you have to watch (and smell) that happening! That would make me mad too!!!
Feel better sweetie!!
Oh no that sucks!! Hopefully you can find another bank that will approve the loan - you don't want to rent for very long.
ReplyDeleteI can't even express my feelings about your stupid SIL right now. Women like that REALLY push my buttons! TRIGS COMING - I went to see Bo.dy W.or.l.ds with my mom one summer and there was an exhibit that showed a pg woman and a space cut out of her chest to show a completely black and messed up lung. She died (while baby in utero - who died too) from severe lung disease! Ugh!
So sorry you had a rough day. I read your other post on w.e.b md about your SIL. If I were you I would have slapped the back of her head for smoking! What an idiot.
ReplyDeleteI am sorry that you have to deal with your SIL. She makes me so mad, from the things you have told us, I guess the only thing you can do is hope and pray for the baby to be healthy and safe, because ultimately that it the most important thing.
ReplyDeleteAnd about the last 5 years changing you, I completely understand. I dont think its possible to go through infertility or family member passing away without it changing you. They are both tragedies and they change the way you look at your life. you will have good days and bad days, dont let anyone make you feel bad about that. emotions are normal.