My name is ~J~ and I'm an infertile in a major funk!
Hello, hope y'all had a good Christmas! Happy New Year, blah blah blah....
I have a question to those of you who are currently PG or maybe you already had your baby. I haven't really been keeping up. Sorry! It's not that I don't care, I do. I just try and guard my heart from more hurt. Anyways, my question for you, is, Did you stop thinking about it/quit TTC and then it happened? Or, We're you trying to get PG, when you did? And if so, Were you doing a treatment C, timing BD, what exactly?? I don't know why I'm even asking. Like it's gonna magically happen to me or something, yeah right. I feel like the exception to every rule. Which could apply to both good & bad rules, unfortunately, I only seem to attract the bad. I guess a part of me will never really give in and give up on my dream.... We have already said we are done trying and even if we hadn't, we are in so much debt for trying to get PG the last nine years, that I don't even think it would be feasible.
These questions have been on my mind for awhile now, so I figured I should just ask. What else do I have to lose?
-Thanks
I'm sorry Jen.
ReplyDeleteIn my eyes/heart... I am always trying... I can say I stop we are on a break. But we are always trying. Maybe I should be happy with what I have already? but to me its not enough.
(((HUGS))) Dear. We did IVF with C but had M naturally. The first month we tried. It was very shocking as we thought we would have to do IVF again but thought we'd try a little while on our own. As you already know how many IUI's 2 IVF's and frozen transfers it took to get C... it is possible to get that suprise. I know you want to move past this but it could happen. I have faith for you. Love you sweetie and sending you giant hugs. I wish I could take this pain away from you.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry (((HUGS))). We tried for 4 years, many rounds of different fertility drugs, 2 IUI's, and were saving up to move on to IVF when I got pregnant with W. When he was 8 months old (I was still breastfeeding) I got pregnant again (I am due in 8 weeks). The only thing I can think of is both time I had been going to the chiropractor for lower back issues, not sure if that had anything to do with it or not but what can it hurt!
ReplyDeleteOh J, huge (((hugs))).
ReplyDeleteWe tried for 2 years to concieve Austin with 4 failed IUI's and a failed IVF in there so we were trying our butts off to concieve him. I really think that carrying his pregnancy helped my hormones regulate a bit and maybe the pregnancy and nursing put my PCOS into a remission of sorts because Lauren's pregnancy and this pregnancy were unplanned.
Praying for a miracle for you and that you feel God's nearness. Lots of love, m
Hugs, J.
ReplyDeleteWhen I became pregnant with H, we werent trying. I had just syarted a new job and my intent was to save up for IVF the following year. So it was always on my mind, but we werent charting/opking/or doing anything medically.
My heart is with you, and I hope your dreams come true this year. Hugs
More hugs!!!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry you're in a funk. I know you've been trying longer than I ever did, but I gave up after about 3 years. It was a year and a half after stopping TTC that this pregnancy happened. I was most definitely NOT even thinking about trying to get pregnant, and felt pretty resolved as far as IF and being childfree was concerned.
I hope so much for you that you find some peace and a resolution of your own!! I want you to be happy. XOXO