SIL woes...

Last weekend we were at J's family reunion and I asked his brother's oldest(she's 8) when she was going to spend the night with us. She of course wanted to spend that night(Sunday) with us, then I remembered she had brought her friend with her and said to her we would plan another night this week. I walked over to her mom(SIL) and my niece beat me there and asked her mom if she could spend the night with us....I explained I forgot about her friend being there and what night would work. SIL asked me what days J had off work(kinda felt like she didn't trust me by myself) and I said, "Wednesday, Thursday, but any night was fine with us. Then she tells my niece Wednesday night might work...she has basketball practice every Mon & Wed nights through summer...L(my niece) keeps saying, Please, please, please! So SIL tells her maybe she can skip practice on Wednesday night. L looks at me like "yeah right, mom's gonna forget", so I tell L I'll call her mom that week, I won't le SIL forget. Everybodies happy! Yesterday rolls around(Tues) and I text SIL and ask if we are still on for L to spend the night? They live a hour away, but thought we would have a better chance of her following through if we picked L up, plus we would be out that way cause J has to drop off a work bid. Well, she replies back with, "L has bball practice all summer and we will have to plan a day around that :(".......I am now agitated and decide to confront her with the whole skipping practice that she told L & me at the reunion. I reply back and nicely say, "that I thought she had said L could skip this once...but what night would work better?" Her reply? "L had fun at Monday's practice & I want her to go - maybe we can schedule something at the end of the week." Um, it was Tuesday night. That's practically mid-week, if we wait to figure out something at the end of the week SIL will just give me more crap excuses! I told J I was done trying & didn't even respond. This is NOT the first time we have asked for one of their kids(she's the SIL w/5 girls) to spend the night. I don't know what it is about us, but they have only let the 3 oldest girls spend the night with us ONE TIME. And that was only because we had asked and asked and they kept telling us their crap excuses and J said something to his dad and the next thing we know, J's brother is calling to say, "we can have them over whenever." The only thing worst than that is a pity-invite. I feel bad for the kiddos cause they ALWAYS want to come over, but their mother is being impossible about it. The thing that ticks me off the most I think is that SIL lets all of hers kids stay the night with everyone else, but when I ask all I get is her crap excuses.

I'm DONE trying.