I've had an EPHINANY this week. An Infertility ephinany. I like using the word, ephinany. Okay, I'll get on with the ephinany..................
..........When we first started ttc, people would always tell me, "you'll get pregnant, I know you will." And, I always thought that was a nice thing for them to say, the comments were so positive and matter fact that it helped me a little. But as time goes by, I am noticing that those same words really tick me off now!!! This week I have heard 2 new comments, "I hope you get pregnant" and "If its meant to be, it will happen." Once upon a time those would have pissed me off, but I see now that I would rather have them tell me those than tell me, "they know I'll get pregnant." How do "they" KNOW I will get pregnant? "They" don't know, I don't even know. They couldn't possibly know. AaaRrrrGgggg!!!!
Plus, I don't need "them" adding to my false hope with "their comments." I can create enough false hope myself, I definitely don't need any help there.
Thanks for listening/reading about my ephinany(sorry, I had to get the word in one last time ;).
Maybe they are psychic?!?
ReplyDeleteIt's a fun word!
ReplyDeleteI think the "if it's meant to be" would still bug me. I totally understand about people's stinking "sunny, bubbly, I'm a little ray of sunshine" false hopes though. We can all do w/o those!
I hate it when peple say "it was/wasn't meant to be"
ReplyDeleteIt's just kind of a cop out. I believe that God has a plan for people's lives but when people make these kind of comments, it's like they think they are in tune with God's plan and just enlightening us. So annoying.